“Why did God make me wrong?”

Designated a girl at birth, Jacob was just two years old when he began saying to his parents that he was a boy. At first, they hoped it was a phase. But Jacob soon began showing all three hallmarks of a transgender child: he was persistent, consistent, and insistent about his gender identity.

Watch this 6-minute video by NBC to learn about Jacob's family's journey from confusion to acceptance.

Have more time? After you watch the video, read the letter that Mimi Lemay wrote to Jacob on his 5th birthday, as she reflected on all the changes that had happened since she and her husband had accepted Jacob's identity. "Jacob, my love," she wrote, "it is you that have transitioned us to a life less ordinary, and so much more meaningful than it ever would have been . . . I don’t know what’s beyond the next bend in the road, but I am no longer afraid." (Lemay, 2015)

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Lemay, Mimi. (2015, February 26). A Letter to My Son Jacob on His 5th Birthday. https://www.boston.com/culture/parenting/2015/02/26/a-letter-to-my-son-jacob-on-his-5th-birthday

NBC News. (2015, April 22). Life as a 5-Year-Old Transgender Child [Video]. YouTube.

Gender Identity Gender identity icon Our core sense of who we are as a man, a woman, a mixture of both, or neither.

Gender Expression Gender expression icon How we show up in the world through choices like clothing, hair style, mannerisms or tone of voice.

Attraction attraction icon How we feel toward others sexually, romantically and/or emotionally.

Biological Sex Biological sex icon Physical attributes such as reproductive organs and genitalia, chromosomes, genes and hormone levels.

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